There is a surprise for you friends. The world is changing fast. Speed is the catchphrase of people’s life. In this age of speed a boy and a girl meet in the morning, fall in love in the afternoon, promise a marriage in the evening and start chatting with another girl and boy in the night. Now, where is the surprise? The surprise is that there are many of us who believe in arranged marriage, and there is nothing wrong in this arrangement. But before taking a plunge, we need to understand the nitty-gritty of arranged marriage. While going for an arranged marriage, remember that our head is above our heart. They say that marriages are fixed in heaven, but we don’t have the privilege to live with fairies on earth. And human beings are bound to be a mixture of good, bad and ugly. So guys, here are some helpful tips for you while you are choosing your dream girl.
Nobody is Perfect
Your hunt for a perfect partner will lead you to nowhere, because nobody is perfect in the world; somewhere you have to find the middle ground. But you can always choose the one who is near to your expectations. Remember, that there is someone, somewhere made for you. She may not fulfill all the criteria you have set for an ideal wife, but isn’t it cool if she gets distinction and not 100%? You can always make her an ideal wife once you are in tango.
Financial Status
Normally for a boy, financial status of a girl does not matter when it comes to selecting spouse. However, smart guys never choose too poor or too rich a girl as his would-be-wife. In both cases, social gap matters the most. Sensible thinking says that the girl should belong to a family, which is equal in financial status. But if your choice is a billionaire bride, then there may be some hitches. The union may create problems as social gap may widen in future. Not that you will be forced to live a life of a house-husband, but your male ego may not accept attitude and lifestyle of your wealthy wife.
Physical Fitness
She may not be Miss Universe. The likes of Angelina Jolly and Jennifer Lopez may be your dream, but not all the girls can tone up their figure in a perfect shape. A girl with reasonably sound health, without any disease can make your wedding album beautiful. Don’t hesitate to ask about any inherent physical problem. You should have the guts to match blood group, rather than matching horoscopes. Diseases like AIDS and Thelasemia Minor – Major can spoil the life. So guys, prevention is better than cure.
Caste Crisis
If you have set an eye on a girl who does not belong to your caste, or if she belongs to a caste lower than yours, you need to prepare to receive stringent remarks from your family and relatives. Indian mother-in-law may not be mature enough to accept a daughter-in-law from a low caste family. Moreover, in a country like India, where social system is more complicated than a cobweb, inter-caste marriage may prove a disaster unless it’s a love-marriage. Social status of both families is equally important in inter-caste marriages as Indians still strongly follow the age-old social hierarchy.
Miscellaneous
Apart from all the above points, there are many important things you need to take care of. If you had an affair in the past, discuss with her openly. You can also ask about her past. Transparency is the key to successful married life. This issue needs special attention, and therefore I would advise you to ask any expert.
So guys, get ready for your wedding. You should remember that life after marriage is a matter of heart. My best wishes are always with you. Enjoy the nuptial bliss.
Jayesh