If love marriage is not your cup of tea, you will have to rely on your parents or matrimonial sites to find your life partner. Here, use your head and not the heart to decide who will be the suitable boy for you. Agreed that marriages are made in heaven, but we live on earth with human beings and not gods. And human beings are bound to be a mixture of good, bad and ugly. So gals, here are some helpful tips for you while you are choosing your Mr Right.

Nobody is Perfect

Your run for finding a perfect partner will lead you to nowhere, because nobody is perfect in the world; somewhere you have to find the middle ground. But you can always choose the one who is near to your expectations. Remember, that there is someone, somewhere made for you. He may not fulfill all the criteria you have set for an ideal husband, but isn’t it good enough if he gets distinction and not 100%? You can always make him Mr Perfect once you have tied the knot.

Financial Status

Finance matters when it comes to selecting life partner. But keep in mind that money is not everything in marriage. Of course it has its stake in a successful marriage as it is one of the tools useful to ensure smooth functioning of wedded life. However, smart girls are happy with a partner, who is financially not sound but otherwise perfect – intelligent, with excellent academic background, bright future and decent looks. More important is your blissful union and not the ‘buck’ful one. But if your choice is a millionaire, then there may be some hitches also. The union may create problems in future as there can be a strong social gap between the two families. You should not overlook the fact that marriage is a union of two families also. You can make the ideal pair by selecting a partner who is equal to you and your family in all manners.

Physical Fitness

He may not be Mr Universe. The likes of Arnold and Sylvester Stallone may be your dream, but everyone cannot build up such a picture-perfect physique. A guy with reasonably sound health, without any disease can make your wedding album beautiful. Don’t hesitate to ask about his bad habits like smoking, drinking or chewing tobacco. If you strongly hate such nuisances, don’t go ahead. Today, girls have the guts to match blood group, rather than matching horoscopes. Diseases like AIDS and Thalassemia Minor or Major can spoil the life. So prevention is better than cure.

Caste Crisis

If you have set an eye on a person who does not belong to your caste, you need to prepare yourself for a complete new world. In a country like India, where social system is more complicated than a cobweb, inter-caste marriage may prove a disaster unless it’s a love-marriage. You have to be open to accept new traditions, new culture and new surrounding; it’s a new lifestyle altogether. Social status of both families is equally important in inter-caste marriages as Indians still strongly follow the age-old social hierarchy.

Miscellaneous

Apart from all the above points, there are many important things you need to take care of. While you are talking to a suitor, never ever ask his salary or financial status. This might create a wrong impression of yours. You should be smart enough to gauge his status either from his designation or from his business type. If you had an affair in the past, discuss with him openly. You can also ask about his past. This issue needs special attention, and therefore I would advise you to ask any expert.

So gals, get ready for your wedding. You should remember that life after marriage is a matter of heart. My best wishes are always with you. Enjoy the nuptial bliss.

Jayesh