Shaadigiri - by FirstPhera.com

Getting married on 08/08/08?

Fri, 08 Aug 2008 07:21:33 GMT

For Chinese the number 8 is considered lucky just like the number 7 is considered lucky in the West. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that the Olympic games in China start on August 8, 2008 or 08/08/08. In China you have to pay extra to have the number 8 in your phone number or license plate. In addition, home and business owners like to have the number 8 in their address.

So, why is the number 8 considered lucky in the minds of Chinese people. The main reason has to do with the pronunciation of the word for the number 8 in China. It is pronounced "ba" and sounds like the word for prosperity which is pronounced "fa". Another reason why the number 8 could be considered lucky is because it is a perfect symmetrical shape. You can cut the number 8 in half vertically or horizontally, and both halves mirror themselves perfectly. Perfect symmetry lends itself to perfect balance. In Chinese Astrology, perfect balance is considered the ideal.

On the date 08/08/08 there is predicted to be a record number of weddings, even surpassing the number of weddings on 07/07/07. According to Chinese Astrology, the date 08/08/08 is in the year of the Rat, the month of the Monkey and the day of the Dragon. It just so happens that the Rat, Monkey and Dragon are in the same affinity group or trine. That means the three Chinese Zodiac animal signs are perfectly compatible with each other. Therefore, the date 08/08/08 will be especially lucky for Rats, Monkeys and Dragons.

Courtesy: www.onlinechineseastrology.com

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?

Tue, 05 Aug 2008 09:50:45 GMT

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?

There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese.....

Thumb represents your Parents
Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
Middle finger represents your-Self
Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner
& the Last (Little) finger represents your children

Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back

Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip

(As shown in the figure below):

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)..., they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)... ., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)... ., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).

You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT....., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!

Please try this out......... ....

ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY? or should I say a practical DEMONSTRATION. ...!!

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Bridal Fashion Trends this season

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 12:28:04 GMT

Indian wedding has undergone sweeping changes and therefore, wedding dresses have also witnessed a sea-change. Gone are the days when brides used to shop their trousseau from a local shop in a single visit. But now, it’s a different story. Brides and even grooms are choosy and the collection of local shops is hard to please them.

Selection of bridal wear eats up a hell lot of time as bridal ensemble is going to play an important part on that crucial day. This is the reason brides today turn to designer wears and fashion designers are in great demand when the wedding season is in full swing.

There is no doubt that wedding demands a lot of preparation and, hence, many expenses. While your groom and your wedding planner are leaving no stone unturned to make the D-day memorable, you are in a topsy-turvy as to what you should wear on the big day.

But now your worries end here. Some of the famous fashion designers are here to tell you about your bridal dressing, what is hot and not in Indian wedding dressing and moreover, the biggest myth about bridal dressing is shattered.

Colors and Trends

Forget what your friends wore in last season. This year everything is new – from colors to trends. However, it’s a back-to-basics culture. Brides are just crazy for traditional colors. US based fashion designer and founder of SilkThreads Ruby Bhandari says, “I think that brides are finally going back the traditional colors of reds, rusts, maroons in the winters and pinks, creams, and golds in the hotter weather. For a little while, brides were trying to be “high fashion” and choose colors like purples, blues and greens, but now, I think that new brides are beginning to realize that the more traditional colors are what make them look and feel like a queen (which they are on their wedding day).”

Colors to watch out for this season are metallics like antique gold, platinum, pewter, champagne, bronze and copper, says Anita Dongre, a Mumbai based fashion designer. These are a very neutral color palette and suit all skin coloring. Brights are also very much in fashion like raspberry, aubergine, crimson, tangerine and brighter pastels like aquamarine, salmon, mint and butter yellow. A hot trend to follow is ombre shading for saris, skirts and dupattas for a more stylish look.

Your Monsoon Medley

With the arrival of monsoon, tension builds up for brides about what to wear. It’s always difficult to make a perfect choice when showers swamp the India. Dongre says, “The most popular bridal wear for the young brides are usually lehengas, heavily embellished kurta sets and saris. For cocktail wear one can opt for corsets teamed with fitted skirts and stoles jazzed up with swarovskis and sequins. For traditional rituals a classic style is more suited to the occasion.”

Grooms also join the designer-wear Bandwagon

Designer wears are not only for girls, grooms are no less fashionable than girls as grooms also get their dresses designed. Ruby adds that SilkThreads works with a lot of grooms. She observes, “They are much savvier about their outfits for their weddings than a few years ago - the ethnic look has been in for a while - typically Sherwanis, with matching embroidery as the bride, matching embroidered shoes, or open jackets with embroidered vests. They are becoming more adventurous as far as colors are concerned, experimenting with splashes of orange, turquoise, magenta, etc.”

While among Indian grooms, favorites are bandhgalas, sherwanis, textured kurtas and unlined jackets for semi-formal looks, adds Dongre. Fabrics can range from jacquards, linens, brocades and silks.

Wedding Dressing Market 2008

More wedding, more buzz in the market. Speaking about US market, Ruby says this year has had more weddings than what we saw at the turn of the century. The difference is that now, brides are more educated about embroideries and fabrics and want to design or choose their own clothing, but do not have time to go to India due to their busy work schedules. So, our job is to bring the heart of India to the American Desi brides by offering a large selection of designer bridal wear in house “ready to wear”, as well as a designer on staff that can put together a dress and grooms attire and the matching accessories to make the perfect wedding ensemble!

While in India, the trend is inching towards sophisticated flamboyance. Embellishments involve use of antique gold, swarovskis, glass beads and lots of fabric effects in tonal and contrast looks. Ombre is also another look to watch out for along with metallics this season. A total coordinated look is boring and it is far trendier to mix various elements to make a unique fashion statement.

The Myth

The biggest myth is that brides should wait on designing their bridal dresses as long as possible so that they can have to follow the latest fashion. In reality, bridal wear doesn’t really “go out of fashion”. Your bridal attire is about “you” and who you are. It is supposed to compliment your skin color and body type so that your photography is complimenting to you. You need to design your dress so that your photographs look beautiful even after 50 years.

According to Dongre, a very common myth and a mistake brides end up making is over embellishment, therefore making an OTT style statement. Bridal wear is not all about being overly done up but choosing key pieces that make up a certain style quotient. For example it is interesting to pair a muted embroidered skirt with a crystal embellished choli and maybe a leheriya dupatta embroidered with both elements involved.

A word of advice

Before you decide your final wedding date, start looking your favorite halls, entertainers and caterers and see what dates are still available so that you can book the ones that you really like. Most couples do exactly the opposite…They decide the date and then find out that many of their favorite venues are already booked. Why settle for less?

Ten Unique Gift Ideas for Brides and Grooms

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 11:53:35 GMT

Gift is an expression of your love to your spouse. Sometimes, you don’t find words to tell your spouse how much you love him/her; at this time, your gift speaks thousand words on your behalf. Wedding is a special occasion for any person, and this is the time you want to show your deepest emotions. Everybody cannot write beautiful verse to show their feelings, and therefore, here are some unique gift ideas to help you on your wedding.

Personalized T-shirts

A personalized T-shirt (with your photograph) to your husband is sure to work wonders as he feels that you are never away from him even if he is on tour or you are in you mayka.

Round-shaped mouse pad

This will be an awesome gift to your spouse if his/her job compels to stick to computers. A personalized photo with a message on a rectangle mouse pad keeps him/her reminding that there is someone who is waiting for you.

Photo Pillow cover

Lay your head on a favourite photo, photo with personalized message or graphic. Enjoy the honeymoon with a personalized photo pillow cover with your side.

Metal Keychain

A great personalized gift to carry your loved ones photo all the time with you. The keychain is waterproof, fade proof & scratch resistant.

Beer Mug

Raise a toast with this beer mug with personalize photo! Every sip is filled with love potion.

Hot Stone Experience

Your experience begins with arrival at one of India’s foremost spas where you soak in and relax in the rejuvenating surroundings. Make your honeymoon hotter with Hot Stone Experience.

Marble Line Aroma Scented Candle

Illuminate your wedding night with Marble Line Aroma Scented Candle. The aromatic, perfumed and non-perfumed candles are available in various shapes and sizes. Decorative candles are also there to set the mood of romance.

Red Heart Cotton Bed Set

This will be the perfect gift to your home-maker wife, who painstakingly makes your house a home. This bright red bed set is all set to decorate the room in a different yet stylish way. The heart pattern looks really attractive.

Rejuvenation Experience

In the age of stress and anxiety, Rejuvenation Experience is a perfect gift you can give your husband. The experience can relax, revive and rejuvenate both the body and the soul with the wonders of ancient ayurvedic oils and massage rituals.

And finally a Photo Frame with a personalised message written on photographs.

For better or worse, through thick and thin,
I'll be there by your side
sharing the laughter and the tears
through life's uncertain ride.
We don't know what the future has
in store for you and me
but this I know, without a doubt,
the best is yet to be.

Enjoy the life.

Jayesh

Looking for electronic gadgets to gift your groom?

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 10:46:28 GMT

Guys love gadgets and electronic gifts to your groom will be a memory to cherish for a lifetime. Here is a wonderful range of cool gadgets you can gift your groom as wedding gift.

DVD Home Theatre System

Guys love to watch movies, unfortunately, alone. Therefore, a DVD home theatre can be a good choice as a gift. Hope, he would invite you to sit beside him.

Laptop

Working on laptop is a great executive experience for any husband. You can fulfil his dream of working on this coolest device. He can work from home also, so you are never away from your life-partner during the first few days after your marriage.

Ipods & Accessories

If your groom loves listening to music, watching video or playing game, this personal digital device is a perfect gift on your wedding.

Camera & Camcorders

Camera & Camcorders are the perfect partner when he is on the tour – for adventure or for business. Let him capture the sweet digital memories of life. Enjoy the snaps when he is back home.

Digital Photo Frame

Store your sweet memories in a digital mode. Give your groom Digital Photo Frame as gift. This is your passport to enter his heart.

Jayesh

While You Are Shopping Your Wedding Dress...

Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:04:03 GMT

If designer wedding wear is not your cup of tea, then you will have to go for shopping your wedding dress – either online or off-line. Shopping of your wedding dressings eat up lot of your time and money, therefore, a meticulous planning is necessary for buying perfect wedding attires; after all, it takes a lot to make yourself a picture-perfect bride or groom.

Make a list

First and foremost, prepare an elaborate list of what you want to shop. Without penning down your requirement, you will end up wasting time and money, which you cannot afford. The list should be all-encompassing – what to purchase, where to purchase from and most important is your budget. And all this needs to be done at least 8 to 9 months before your marriage date. Making a list also includes a few tips from your friends, relatives and colleagues about the shops, price and quality material. Treat your shopping as a project because wedding is once-in-a-lifetime affair.

Don’t Go Beyond Budget

If currency is not a constraint, the whole world is for you. You can easily take your dream dress home from the rack. But for those, who have to look twice into the pocket, budget shopping is indispensable. Getting your perfect wedding ensemble may be a far cry from the expensive and elegance attires. One more thing to remember is that budget shopping takes more time than your lavish shopping as you have to look around more shops to get your wedding dress. Therefore, you need to devote enough time to your shopping so that you may not go beyond your budget.

Is There a Discount Sale in Your City?

Before you kick start your moped, just check out whether or no there is a discount sale in your city. Sometimes, seasonal sales can help you get what you want at reasonable prices. And you can shop all your wedding dresses from a single shop, saving your time and money. The sale organizers come together under the same roof and offer several branded and non-branded wedding dresses. They also accept credit cards, so you don’t have to bring large amount with you.

Shopping Online?

There are thousands of websites that offer wedding dress and you can make your choice sitting at home. The online shops give a larger selection of bridal dresses. What is not found at traditional stores may be available at online shop. You can purchase a budget wedding dress, a designer bridal dress or a discount bridal dressing in just a few clicks. Moreover, these online shops keep updating their collection at a regular interval. So you are in touch with what is latest in the market.

However, online shopping doesn’t offer the facility of trials; moreover, you have to select your wedding dress just by viewing the material and not by touching the texture of material.

Finally, regardless of your shopping destination, it is important to start shopping as early as possible. The best thing never comes easily, it takes time. And after getting the right wedding dress, there are all chances you may have to alter it to suit your need. To avoid last moment rush, it is better to start early. So get up and go!

Jayesh

Hindu Marriage: Values behind the Rituals

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 12:38:12 GMT

Hindu wedding in India means lot of rituals and customs to be followed. And these wedding rituals and customs have been truthfully observed for the last many centuries by Hundus in India. Hindu wedding rituals include number of materials, which symbolize cultural and religious significance. Everything has a meaning behind its use in wedding. Here are some important rituals observed and religious stuff used in a Hindu wedding.

Varmala

Though Varmala did not find place in Vedic wedding rituals, it has become a part and parcel today in Hindu marriages. The traditional meaning of Varmala (bride and groom put garland around each other’s neck) is a proposal by the bride and then the acceptance of the same. Pundits believe that the ritual has been originated from the Swayamvara practice prevalent in Middle Ages and the ideal example of this is the famous couple – Prithvi Raj Chauhan and Sanyukta.

Kanyadan

Most commonly, the term Kanyadan is used to describe the most highly valued form of Hindu marriage. More specifically, Kanyadan is a Hindu wedding ritual and it means Gift of Virgin or Gift of Maiden. According to contemporary, traditional Hindu belief, giving their virgin daughter to the husband’s family not only increases and ensures the parents’ prestige, but it is also believed to purify them of sin.

Saat Phere

Wedding ritual comes in the most important phase with Saptapadi or Saat Phere. These are seven vows taken in front of Holy Fire (Agni Devta). These vows taken in front of Agni are considered unbreakable. This ritual consists of circumambulation around fire for seven times and with each round bride and groom recites vows.

What are the vows?

During the first round, bride and groom prays to the Gods for the plenty of pure and healthful food and a life that is noble and respectful. In second round, the couple pleads for physical and mental strength and to lead a healthy and peaceful life. Fulfilment of spiritual obligations is the key of the third phera. Couple invokes the Gods to bless them with spiritual power. The fourth phera denotes achievement of joy and harmony through mutual love and trust and a long happy life together. In the fifth phera, bride and groom wishes welfare of all living creatures in the universe and for begetting noble children. During the sixth phera, couples pray for abundance of crops all over the world. With the last phera they pray for a life of understanding, loyalty, unity and companionship not only for themselves but also for the peace of the Universe.

After exchanging these vows of love, duty, respect and fidelity the couple agree to be life-partners forever.

Mangalsutra

A married Hindu woman is recognized by five symbols – Mangalsutra, Toe Rings, Kumkum, Bangles and a Nose Ring – and Mangalsutra is the most important for any married woman because it remains around her neck until the death of her husband. The word Mangalsutra means an auspicious thread or cord. It is made of black beads and gold; the black beads of Mangalsutra are supposed to protect the marriage from evil eyes.

According to Hindu scriptures, Mangalsutra plays a major role in Hindu woman’s life. She is considered married once her husband puts this sacred thread around her neck. This tradition runs through generations after generations; but these days, the trend has been changed. Earlier, women prefer long thread, and now they prefer short one.

Significance of a Betel Leaf

A leaf gives leverage to the life of bride and groom. Betel leaf is given a great deal of importance in Hindu wedding. The leaf signifies freshness and prosperity. Also known as Tambool, the betel leaf marks the beginning of all auspicious events. In Hindu tradition, marriages are confirmed by exchanging betel leaves. Even while invitations are sent to relatives, betel leaves play an important role. Betel also signifies three main Hindu Gods: Brahma, Vishnu and Mahesh. Areca is Brahma, Betel is Vishnu and Lime is Shiva.

Marriage procession led by groom is given a warm reception with betel leaves and then every ritual is performed with betel leaves.

Thus Hindu weddings are accomplished with many rituals and pious materials.

Jayesh

Indian Bridal Dress - Traditional or Modern

Tue, 15 Jul 2008 10:08:20 GMT

Wedding is one of the most important occasions for any Indian girl, and she wants to make it the most memorable one. And wedding trousseau is a thing that helps make her wedding a special event. But as happens with all brides, they do not know what is hot and what is not; should they go for traditional or modern. Such and other issues haunt them during the pre-wedding preparation. This article aims to help brides select their wedding dresses which suit their requirement and make the marriage an unforgettable occasion.

Brides, first and foremost your wedding dress has to be graceful as well as chic, it needs to be unique and still should fit into your budget. Then comes the style. Would you like to go for modern or traditional? Which style suits to your figure and occasion? You can decide this on your own or you can seek advice of fashion or dress designer. Professional guidance can help you a lot.

Traditional

Usually Indian brides settle on traditional heavy work trousseau because on a very few occasions Indian girls garb themselves in such beautiful and colourful dresses. But brides remember that silhouettes must be feminine. These days brides love pastel shades and whites; earlier they used to prefer dark and vivacious colours. Latest lustrous designs and light colours are in.

Metallic colours are also in vogue. Colours like silver and rust brown can be a good choice. If you are tying knot in summer, go for cool colours like sky blue, sea green and other gentle colours. Earthen colours are not in today. Nets, transparent fabrics and a general feel of lightness are also trendy. Stay away from golden look and pick up white gold and silver look. Wedding dress is normally made of rich materials like silks and velvets and worked over heavily in gold trimmings or brocade. Indians are fascinated by colours like red, pink, and maroon.

Traditional Indian bridal wear includes elite collection of Indian bridal dress, zari sarees, embroided sarees, gem embellished wear, elegant Indian bridal suits in hottest designs and styles. Indian bridal wear makes the most of rich resource of Indian fabrics like brocade, silk, tissue, crepes, zari, geogette and many more. Each piece of bridal wear has supreme grace and craftsmanship that imparts stylishness and royalty to the bride. In Indian bridal wear elaborate work of resham, heavy zardosi, kundan work enhanced by enthralling patterns and colours that appeal the eyes.

What is hot Today

Selection of bridal wear eats up a hell lot of time as bridal ensemble is going to play an important part on that crucial day. This is the reason brides today turn to designer wears and fashion designers are in great demand when the wedding season is in full swing.

Many designers combine the look of the modern world and the traditional Indian wedding dress designs. The result is some cool designs which look Indian but show some western influence. These designers select colours like red, rust, maroon in the winters and pink, cream, and gold in the hotter weather. These Indian bridal wedding dresses are now widespread. It can be seen that the combination only emphasizes the beauty and the elegance that the wedding dress projects.

Given today’s wedding, it is advisable that brides should consult any dress designer for their wedding ensemble; even if they go for traditional dressings, a designer can help her in all manners.

Jayesh

Charity begins at Ahmedabad

Sat, 14 Jun 2008 08:27:07 GMT

No, Amdavadis are not only minting money, they are equally charitable. Be it money or blood, they are ready to donate without any shilly-shallying. If this sounds too much on your ears, then here is a proof.

According to the world blood donation figures, the commercial capital of Gujarat is way ahead of the world in donating blood. The figures reveal that per capita blood donation in the city is three times the world average. The figures emphasize the humanitarian guts of Amdavadis. The percentage of blood donors in Ahmedabad’s population is 3.30, much above the world figure of 1.15 percent.

So guys we need to keep this status forever, especially the young blood can do much more.

Hey, I have an idea! How about donating blood on your wedding day? Make your wedding memorable by donating blood. If you have any other idea, share with us.

Jayesh

Quotable quotes for dear dad

Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:38:24 GMT

The hands that raise us are most lovable to us. It’s our dad who taught us how to walk and when we tumbled, he never used to run for our help; because he wanted us to stand up on our own. He deserves many thanks from us. Perhaps these quotes may help you to say “I love you dad.”

He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.

Clarence Budington Kelland

My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, "You're tearing up the grass." "We're not raising grass," Dad would reply. "We're raising boys."

Harmon Killebrew

One father is more than a hundred Schoolemasters.

George Herbert

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.

Bill Cosby

Father! - to God himself we cannot give a holier name.

William Wordsworth

A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again.

Enid Bagnold

Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call him father!

Lydia M. Child

It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.

Johann Schiller

Dad, you're someone to look up to no matter how tall I've grown.

Anonymous

Old as she was, she still missed her daddy sometimes.

Gloria Naylor

There's something like a line of gold thread running through a man's words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself.

John Gregory Brown

Are we not like two volumes of one book?

Marceline Desbordes -Valmore

The greatest gift I ever had
Came from God; I call him Dad!

Anonymous

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.

Elizabeth Stone

I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich.

Colonel Potter

Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever.

Anonymous

There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

If you have any cool quote on Father's Day, share with us.

Corporate culture: Professional success & marital misery

Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:35:25 GMT

After much drudgery and isolation, Japanese wives have been duly rewarded by Japan’s government. The new law allows wife to get half the amount of her husband’s pension. At the same time, it has created a panic among the husbands, who have been working long hours in offices and coming homes late, where their wives were waiting for them. While some dub this action of government as the rational response to wife’s hard work and loneliness, there are many who claim that corporate culture in Japan has taken toll of married life of men. This is not the situation of Japan only; working late hours and corporate burden has become an order of the day in a country like India, where young guys labour hard for their professional life. But the love is lost from their life. The matrimonial muddle caused by the corporate culture has inspired me to write this piece.

Spare time for her

Young guys need to understand that office is not the only place on earth. There is someone who is waiting for them at home. You are devoting enough time to your job; but do you spare a few moments for your spouse? Just ask this question to your self. Your better half is someone who is willing to sacrifice everything for you; even her personal likes and dislikes do not matter after she has tied knot with you. And she asks for a few happy moments.

No laptop in the bedroom

Now this is the limit guys. You are bringing laptop to home, ok. But is it wise to enter the bedroom with laptop hanged on your shoulder? Try to finish your tasks in office itself so that laptop may not play spoilsport in the bedroom. It irritates your wife and maybe you will not get your lunch-box next day. So be careful.

Weekend merriment

Don’t come with your laptop on Friday. Forget this despicable device (for your wife) at office, and see the happy face of your dear wife. Don’t arrange any drinking party with your friends. In this day and age, some guys have developed courage to switch off office mobile. If your position does not allow going to this extent, you can SMS your boss.

Sweet nothings in her ears

Even while you are in office, you can take a few moments to have sweet nothings to your wife. You can chitchat with her during lunch hour or while you having sipping coffee in the afternoon. This may squeeze your purse a little bit, but it means a lot for your wife.

So guys, these are the simple rules of happy married life forever. Balance is must in your life. Remember that your professional excellence will put broad smile on your wife’s face, and if your marital life is blissful, it will inspire you to climb higher on professional ladder.

Jayesh

Gift to your Dad on Father’s Day

Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:33:21 GMT

He has fulfilled all your wishes; he has always taken care of your demands and sometimes, before you ask for anything, you get it. William Shakespeare said, “It is a wise father that knows his own child”, but now it’s your turn to be wise to know your dad and give him a nice gift on Father’s Day.

Here are some beautiful gifts you can give to your dear dad.

Wrist watch

He has devoted more than enough time to you, so you can give him a priceless and beautiful timepiece.

Mobile/Ipod

Is your dad a tech-savvy? Then nothing beat the funky mobiles and iPods. But don’t forget to download melodious songs in the iPod.

Sweets

If he has a sweet tooth, give him toothsome sweets and chocolates. After all, who doesn’t want to relive his childhood?

Find some more Gifts

Jayesh

Make your dad laugh on Father's Day

Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:32:23 GMT

Dad is everything for us as he is the one who raises us with care and comfort. On Father’s Day, make him laugh with some jokes. Celebrate the Day of Dad.

The Right Choice

My 16-year-old brother, Ryan, was out late with friends one night. Suddenly he realized it was Father's Day and he had neglected to buy a card for our dad. After much searching, Ryan located an open store, but was disappointed to find only two cards left on a picked-over rack. Selecting one, he brought it home and, somewhat sheepishly, presented it to our father.

Upon opening it, Dad read this message: "You've been like a father to me." He looked at Ryan, puzzled.

"Well, Dad," Ryan tried to explain, "It was either that or the card that said, 'Now that I'm a father too!'"

Thanks for the Soda, Pop!

Before I took the old family car to college, my father loaded the trunk with soft-drink bottles filled with oil, coolant and transmission fluid. Sure enough, my car overheated. Scolding myself for not listening to my father's instructions, I looked at the engine and saw how well he knew me. The oil cap was labeled Dr Pepper, the transmission stick, Coke, and the empty coolant container, Diet Pepsi. I finished the trip safely.

Say What, Dad?

Our Gen-X daughter, Cristie, made my husband a Father's Day card entitled "Things My Dad Would Never Say." Such as:

"Can you turn up that music?"

"Go ahead and take my truck. Here's 50 bucks for gas."

"I LOVE your tattoo. We should both get new ones."

"Here, you take the remote."

Watch the Wash, Dad...

I decided to make myself useful and do a load of the family laundry. When I took the clothes out of the machine, I discovered -- to my dismay -- that I had also washed the watch my wife had given me while we were dating. "Don't expect me to replace it," she said later with an obvious lack of sympathy. By the time Father's Day rolled around, however, she had relented and gave me a beautiful new watch. Attached was a note with this stipulation: "DRY-CLEAN ONLY!"

What a Card!

Father's Day was near when I brought my three-year-old son, Tyler, to the card store. Inside, I showed him the cards for dads and told him to pick one.

When I looked back, Tyler was picking up one card after another, opening them up and quickly shoving them back into slots, every which way. "Tyler, what are you doing?" I asked. "Haven't you found a nice card for Daddy yet?"

"No," he replied. "I'm looking for one with money in it."

Papa Bear

My husband's cousin married a former Marine who now works for United Parcel Service. They bought their four-year-old son two stuffed bears -- one in a UPS uniform and the other in Marine garb. When the boy seemed confused, his father brought out a picture of himself in full Marine dress. "See, Connor?" he explained, pointing to the photo and then to the bear. "That's Daddy."

Connor's eyes went from one to the other, and then he asked in a puzzled voice, "You used to be a bear?"

Pop Vs. Pup

While flying from Denver to Kansas City, Kansas, my mother was sitting across the aisle from a woman and her eight-year-old son. Mom couldn't help laughing as they neared their destination and she heard the mother say to the boy, "Now remember -- run to Dad first, then the dog."

Paternal Payback

On the day I received my learner's permit, my father agreed to take me out for a driving lesson. With a big grin, he hopped in behind the driver's seat. "Why aren't you sitting up front on the passenger's side?" I asked.

"Kirsten, I've been waiting for this ever since you were a little girl," Dad replied. "Now it's my turn to sit back here and kick the seat."

No. 1 on Our List -- Literally!

My father was completely lost in the kitchen and never ate unless someone prepared a meal for him. When Mother was ill, however, he volunteered to go to the supermarket for her. She sent him off with a carefully numbered list of seven items.

Dad returned shortly, very proud of himself, and proceeded to unpack the grocery bags. He had one bag of sugar, two dozen eggs, three hams, four boxes of detergent, five boxes of crackers, six eggplants, and seven green peppers.

Share some more jokes on Dad.

Courtesy: Reader’s Digest

A few words on your first wedding anniversary…

Mon, 09 Jun 2008 10:20:02 GMT

Whether it’s a love marriage or arranged one, for most Indian couples, keeping the flame of love on fire is a challenge. The first year of the marriage is very crucial for any couple as it decides the course of the life ahead. Many couples experience the demise of love even when they are cutting the cake of their first wedding anniversary. Sometimes, they don’t know what went wrong behind this. So young couples, here are some tips for you on how to live the first year of your marriage.

Enjoy the togetherness without being a doubter

Never allow any bias to take over your mind as this might lead you to doubt your spouse. Do not give your ears to anyone who tells you about what to look ahead to about wedding. Also don’t cultivate any view about your husband or wife on the basis of others’ statement. Use your brain and listen to your heart.

Stress is bound to creep into your life as your wife either gets into the household chores or if she is working, she is doubly loaded with familial and official jobs. While your husband has to toil hard on his 9 to 5 job or he is under the stress of business worries. But this should not let distance built up between you two. You will have to find some time for pleasure. Don’t miss any chance to escape to the pleasure land; this will be your life long memories to cherish when your hair turn grey.

Love never comes to an end, so never get tired of love. The more, the merrier.

After marriage, you become a couple and you are one, but still a little bit of privacy is advisable for both. I have heard of many couples who have different washrooms for themselves. Sometimes, it’s better to spend a few moments with yourself.

Unlock your mind to suggestions, new experiences and also for compromises. Reject the I-am-always-the-right attitude. Ego is harder than the kick of Figo, but you have to kick it out from your matrimonial life.

Don’t share your marital problems to anyone except your parents or siblings or your true friends.

Try to accept mistakes of your spouse. To err is spouse, to forgive is spouse. Make a clean breast in front of your partner if you have done any wrong.

Never create a pressure on your spouse by threatening him/her with divorce. This should be your last option.

An outing a week, keeps married life sleek. Plan a day out in the weekend. You don’t have to dine out on every pleasure trip.

You can always arrange a candlelit dinner at your home. Just switch off your mobile, TV sets and door-bell also.

Keep giving romantic surprises and gifts to your spouse. Wife can fill her husband’s lunch box with something he likes the most and husband can bring home something very special (bouquet, sari etc.) for his wife.

Avoid communication gap

Just talk over any issue related to both of you. Never leave it on fate. If you have any fears about each other, express them openly. Don’t discuss any issue in the bedroom. Go to a garden or on a long-drive; discuss your problems with a peaceful frame of mind.

Finally, ask any expert if any problem persists. But remember, that it’s your first year of marriage and therefore, there should not be any problem that continues the next few. Enjoy the life to the full; be true to yourself and your spouse. This is the only mantra for successful marriage.

Jayesh

Dating dos and don’ts for She

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 05:11:46 GMT

After getting engaged to the one you like, the next beautiful thing in the world is dating for any young girl. It’s time to celebrate romance, sing the love duets, dine out and hang out at cool places. And the heaven seems within a hailing distance for you. Though there are no fixed rules for dating (even if there are, would you like to follow?), I would like to tell you some dos and don’ts for dating. The piece of writing intends to set up excellent rapport with your would-be spouse.

A ride can be risky

You are meeting the guy for the first time and therefore, a long-drive is not safe. You are not familiar with his nature and character. Better play safe than be sorry after any disgusting incidents. Try to convince him to sit on a garden bench or a restaurant. The rendezvous should not be too over-crowded to spoil your meeting and should not be too desolate to rouse him to do some objectionable. Remember, there’s many a slip ‘twixt cup and lip.

Man’s privilege

If you are at restaurant or any other food zone, allow him to pay the damage; after all, it’s man’s privilege. This will also decide how much he can shell out after you. This does not mean that your purse should be empty. Keep some bucks for any kind of emergency.

Be early birds

It’s good to be at the meeting point at lest 10 minutes before the fixed time. It creates a good impression of yours and he understands the value of time in the next date. Moreover, you get the comfortable place to sit.

Ring him up if you are late

If you think you can’t reach the place on time, it’s advisable for you to talk to him. Give him the right reason. Making somebody wait is rude.

Topics to talk on

Perhaps the most embarrassing situation Indian girls face is what to talk. Start with weather or the place itself, and gradually you can switch to romance. Never talk on religion, politics, sex, money, business etc. This can easily lead you to arguments on your very first date.

Go alone

Any third person may play a spoilsport. Never take your friend with you; why give him a chance to stare at your friend . And if he has been accompanied by his friend, softly say no to him.

Don’t forget the gift

First date without a gift can be as dull as ditchwater. Give him a good wallet or something that is suitable for men. If your purse allows, you can also buy a wristwatch or anything precious for him. Your gift should express your true emotions to him.

That’s all. Now get ready to enjoy the first date with your fiancé. Remember, that these points are quite general in nature; there may be some situations which are not discussed in this article, and then you may have to show your tact to handle the situation with care. The best is to consult any expert before you go for a date. I wish you good luck.

Tips for Guys

Jayesh

Romance in the rain

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:04:13 GMT

Season of love is round the corner as clouds are shouting loud and tiny drops are heralding the dawn of downpour. This is the season of romance, time to dance and chance to glance over the soaked and sexy figure of your loved ones. How can you sit home idly while it’s raining outside? Get up and go. Give your flame a surprise by planning an outing. But before you buzz up your partner, here are some helpful tips on how to celebrate the romance in the rain.

No umbrella, no raincoat

Come on guys, you are not going to attend the evening prayer at temple. You are on date, and going on a date with an umbrella or a raincoat is contempt of Cupid and rain. Two souls are meeting and nature’s most beautiful phenomenon is showering blessings, and at this time any artificial thing should not be allowed to play spoilsport. So keep your waterproof wears in the corner and just go.

Where to go?

Beach is the best. If you are not far from coastal area, drive to beach. The roaring sea, cloudy sky, cool breeze and sodden sand – everything is ready to ignite the passion of romance in you. Who cares of onlookers? You are in love and love is left, right and centre.

Gardens are forever

If beach is not in your destiny, gardens can be the ideal rendezvous in metros. The lush green grass is the next best thing to touch after the sizzling skin of your partner. And here, you will definitely find others who are just as romantic as you are. So nobody cares what you are doing and you are always in a private corner with your soft corner.

Hip Hip Highway…

Indulge in a great escape to the highway. Drive on the romantic roads. Bike is the best vehicle as your partner can give you a tight hug on the road. But make sure that your bike has anti-skid tyres, otherwise your romantic trip may end in the hospital.

Pining for dining

Who says that lovers have got only hearts and not stomachs? Feeling hungry? Snacks can spice up your romance. Have some corncob (Makai) with a pinch of black-pepper and lemon. The sour and hot taste will never allow any dull moment even after you are at home. And you will be chewing over the sweet memories till the next monsoon.

If Makai cannot tickle your taste buds, then try some hot and spicy pakoda. Crispy pakodas will make you sizzle under the dripping trees.

Muska bun is the best option for those who don’t want to revel in the spicedom. The smooth and slick butter with a cozy bun – doesn’t it look like your beloved’s cheeks? Every bite is better than the previous one. Law of Diminishing Returns does not work here. The more you eat, the more hungry you are.

That’s all guys. Enjoy the rain, enjoy the romance. And for lonely hearts, here is a lyric found from internet.

Raindrops Keep Fallin On My Head
But Thank God Cause It's Just
Hidin The Tears From My Face
Since You've Been Gone
I'm So Out Of Place
And I Need You Here Babe.

Jayesh

Dating dos and don’ts for Boys

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:03:24 GMT

You have found your dream girl, and now you are going to meet her for the first time. This is your first date with her. Decked up in the funkiest garbs, spraying the Lomani and eclipsing your eyes with Ray-ban – but before you kick start your bike, wait my friend. Do you know dating etiquettes? If no, read on and then fix a date with your fiancée.

Gift your girl

It’s your first date, and you can’t go empty-handed. Buy some beautiful gift for her. Remember that bunch of flowers is not a gift. Your gift to your fiancée can be anything from jewellery to watches to electronics. It should be romantic gifts to her.

Be early birds

It’s good to be at the meeting point at lest 10 minutes before the fixed time. It creates a good impression of yours and she understands the value of time in the next date. Moreover, you get the comfortable place to sit.

Man’s privilege

If you are at restaurant or any other food zone, don’t allow her to pay the damage; after all, it’s man’s privilege. This will also decide how much you can shell out after her (smiley). If still she sticks with paying the bill, the best idea is to go Dutch. Just share your bill.

Ring her up if you are late

If you think you can’t reach the place on time, it’s advisable for you to talk to her. Give her the right reason. Making somebody wait is rude.

Topics to talk on

Perhaps the most embarrassing situation for any couple faces is what to talk. Start with weather or the place itself, and gradually you can switch to romance. Never talk on religion, politics, sex, money, business etc. This can easily lead you to arguments on your very first date.

Go alone

Any third person may play a spoilsport. Never take your friend with you; she may not like the intrusion of any other person as this is your personal affair. And if she has been accompanied by her friend, softly say no to her.

That’s all. Now get ready to enjoy the first date with your fiancée. Remember, that these points are quite general in nature; there may be some situations which are not discussed in this article, and then you may have to show your tact to handle the situation with care. The best is to consult any expert before you go for a date.

Good luck guys.

Tips for Girls

Jayesh

Suitable boy for She

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 06:45:38 GMT

If love marriage is not your cup of tea, you will have to rely on your parents or matrimonial sites to find your life partner. Here, use your head and not the heart to decide who will be the suitable boy for you. Agreed that marriages are made in heaven, but we live on earth with human beings and not gods. And human beings are bound to be a mixture of good, bad and ugly. So gals, here are some helpful tips for you while you are choosing your Mr Right.

Nobody is Perfect

Your run for finding a perfect partner will lead you to nowhere, because nobody is perfect in the world; somewhere you have to find the middle ground. But you can always choose the one who is near to your expectations. Remember, that there is someone, somewhere made for you. He may not fulfill all the criteria you have set for an ideal husband, but isn’t it good enough if he gets distinction and not 100%? You can always make him Mr Perfect once you have tied the knot.

Financial Status

Finance matters when it comes to selecting life partner. But keep in mind that money is not everything in marriage. Of course it has its stake in a successful marriage as it is one of the tools useful to ensure smooth functioning of wedded life. However, smart girls are happy with a partner, who is financially not sound but otherwise perfect – intelligent, with excellent academic background, bright future and decent looks. More important is your blissful union and not the ‘buck’ful one. But if your choice is a millionaire, then there may be some hitches also. The union may create problems in future as there can be a strong social gap between the two families. You should not overlook the fact that marriage is a union of two families also. You can make the ideal pair by selecting a partner who is equal to you and your family in all manners.

Physical Fitness

He may not be Mr Universe. The likes of Arnold and Sylvester Stallone may be your dream, but everyone cannot build up such a picture-perfect physique. A guy with reasonably sound health, without any disease can make your wedding album beautiful. Don’t hesitate to ask about his bad habits like smoking, drinking or chewing tobacco. If you strongly hate such nuisances, don’t go ahead. Today, girls have the guts to match blood group, rather than matching horoscopes. Diseases like AIDS and Thalassemia Minor or Major can spoil the life. So prevention is better than cure.

Caste Crisis

If you have set an eye on a person who does not belong to your caste, you need to prepare yourself for a complete new world. In a country like India, where social system is more complicated than a cobweb, inter-caste marriage may prove a disaster unless it’s a love-marriage. You have to be open to accept new traditions, new culture and new surrounding; it’s a new lifestyle altogether. Social status of both families is equally important in inter-caste marriages as Indians still strongly follow the age-old social hierarchy.

Miscellaneous

Apart from all the above points, there are many important things you need to take care of. While you are talking to a suitor, never ever ask his salary or financial status. This might create a wrong impression of yours. You should be smart enough to gauge his status either from his designation or from his business type. If you had an affair in the past, discuss with him openly. You can also ask about his past. This issue needs special attention, and therefore I would advise you to ask any expert.

So gals, get ready for your wedding. You should remember that life after marriage is a matter of heart. My best wishes are always with you. Enjoy the nuptial bliss.

Jayesh

Can you find your Dream Girl on earth?

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 06:44:22 GMT

There is a surprise for you friends. The world is changing fast. Speed is the catchphrase of people’s life. In this age of speed a boy and a girl meet in the morning, fall in love in the afternoon, promise a marriage in the evening and start chatting with another girl and boy in the night. Now, where is the surprise? The surprise is that there are many of us who believe in arranged marriage, and there is nothing wrong in this arrangement. But before taking a plunge, we need to understand the nitty-gritty of arranged marriage. While going for an arranged marriage, remember that our head is above our heart. They say that marriages are fixed in heaven, but we don’t have the privilege to live with fairies on earth. And human beings are bound to be a mixture of good, bad and ugly. So guys, here are some helpful tips for you while you are choosing your dream girl.

Nobody is Perfect

Your hunt for a perfect partner will lead you to nowhere, because nobody is perfect in the world; somewhere you have to find the middle ground. But you can always choose the one who is near to your expectations. Remember, that there is someone, somewhere made for you. She may not fulfill all the criteria you have set for an ideal wife, but isn’t it cool if she gets distinction and not 100%? You can always make her an ideal wife once you are in tango.

Financial Status

Normally for a boy, financial status of a girl does not matter when it comes to selecting spouse. However, smart guys never choose too poor or too rich a girl as his would-be-wife. In both cases, social gap matters the most. Sensible thinking says that the girl should belong to a family, which is equal in financial status. But if your choice is a billionaire bride, then there may be some hitches. The union may create problems as social gap may widen in future. Not that you will be forced to live a life of a house-husband, but your male ego may not accept attitude and lifestyle of your wealthy wife.

Physical Fitness

She may not be Miss Universe. The likes of Angelina Jolly and Jennifer Lopez may be your dream, but not all the girls can tone up their figure in a perfect shape. A girl with reasonably sound health, without any disease can make your wedding album beautiful. Don’t hesitate to ask about any inherent physical problem. You should have the guts to match blood group, rather than matching horoscopes. Diseases like AIDS and Thelasemia Minor – Major can spoil the life. So guys, prevention is better than cure.

Caste Crisis

If you have set an eye on a girl who does not belong to your caste, or if she belongs to a caste lower than yours, you need to prepare to receive stringent remarks from your family and relatives. Indian mother-in-law may not be mature enough to accept a daughter-in-law from a low caste family. Moreover, in a country like India, where social system is more complicated than a cobweb, inter-caste marriage may prove a disaster unless it’s a love-marriage. Social status of both families is equally important in inter-caste marriages as Indians still strongly follow the age-old social hierarchy.

Miscellaneous

Apart from all the above points, there are many important things you need to take care of. If you had an affair in the past, discuss with her openly. You can also ask about her past. Transparency is the key to successful married life. This issue needs special attention, and therefore I would advise you to ask any expert.

So guys, get ready for your wedding. You should remember that life after marriage is a matter of heart. My best wishes are always with you. Enjoy the nuptial bliss.

Jayesh

Bengali Wedding

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 06:42:54 GMT

You may call them the sweetest community of India, their honeyed tongue is dipped in Rasgulla and their heart-winning smile makes them the lovable people in India. If you guess that I am talking of Bengali people, your guess is right. People of West Bengal love their land (Hamar Sonar Bangla), literature and cultural legacy. Bengali wedding is an elaborate affair as it goes on for more than three days. The wedding involves plenty of customs and traditions; it’s a get-together of close relatives and a joyful occasion.

Engagement

Adan Pradan

The literal meaning of Adan Pradan is give and take. It is a ritual wherein pandit matches the ancestral lines of two families. This ritual is important because according to Hindu scriptures marriage between the persons of same lineage (gotra) or close relatives are not acceptable on social and cultural grounds.

Paka-Dekha

After Adan Pradan, now it is time to Paka-Dekha. In this ritual, groom’s family goes to bride’s home and finalizes everything including date of marriage. Normally, senior members of the family go to bride’s family, and bride is given some gifts as a mark of acceptance. However, this ritual finds little importance these days.

Aashirwad or Patri Patra

In Ashirwad or Patri Patra, the bond is confirmed. This ritual is conducted two-three days before the wedding at bride or groom’s house by a pandit.

Rituals before wedding

Vridhi Puja

Vridhi pooja includes offering prayers to ancestors of bride and groom. This ritual takes place on marriage day itself in the morning. All the members of family get together and attend this ritual. Rangoli (Alpana) is done and ghot (earthen pot) with amra pallab (mango leave) is placed on the Rangoli. All the items necessary for pooja are arranged in a silver plate (baran dala). The pandit brings a statue of Bhagwan Narayan for the puja. The statue is worshipped by lighting incense sticks and lamps. The Vridhi is usually performed by a father or paternal uncle. According to tradition, uncle and the bride/groom should be on liquid diet on the day.

For Vridhi, families require Rangoli colours, poojan materials, a silver plate, incense sticks and lamps.

Dodhi Mangal

This ritual is performed at the dawn of wedding day in both families. Ten married women invite Goddess Ganga at a nearby pond. They bring a bucket of water from the pond and give a bath to bride and groom. This followed by offering of food to bride and groom. The meal includes curd, chiruya (a variety of pressed rice) and banana etc. Bride and groom are allowed to eat this meal after the marriage rituals.

For Dodhi Mangal, families require aarti thali, curd, pressed rice and banana for meal.

Weeding Piris

Piris are used for bride and groom to sit over. These piris are brought to the bride's home a day before the wedding or on the wedding day. These piris are decorated and painted by relatives and friends. When the decoration is completed, conch shells are blown and ululation is followed. Both families exchange gifts.

For Piris, families require gifts for bride and groom and decorated Piris.

Gae Halud Tattva

A relative of the groom arrives at the bride's house with Gae Halud Tattva (gifts) for the bride. The gifts include at least six saris and cosmetics. Also among the gifts are fish, assorted sweets, curd, betel leaves, grain and durba. Incense is lit to welcome them and conch shells are blown. The bearers are given sweets and gifts.

For this ritual, families require paste of turmeric, six saris for bride, cosmetic, fish, other sweets, curd, betel leaves, grains and durba.

Snan

The Snan means bathing. In this ceremony, it stands for the bathing rituals that the bride and groom must follow on the day of the wedding. The bath takes place in the late afternoon or evening. A few married women apply turmeric and oil on the hair and body of the bride/groom. After bathing, the bride and groom must put on new clothes that have been gifted to them by their in-laws. The worn clothes are later given away to a barber.

For Snan ceremony, families require paste of turmeric, scented oil and new clothes.

Sankha Porana

The bride at her parents’ house follows the tradition of wearing sankha porana or conch shell bangles that have been dipped in turmeric water. After her bath, she wears a new sari and wears the sankha poranas.
For this ritual, bride family requires shell bangles (sankha poranas) and sari.

Dressing up the Bride

The bride adorns herself in all her bridal robes. Her hair is tied into a bun and covered with a veil. The mukut (crown) is placed on her head and fixed in place by pinning it to the veil. After her bridal makeover, a design of the mukut is traced on her face using the chandan paste. The bride must sit with the gaach kouto and kaajal laata for the ceremonies that follow.

For bridal makeover, bride’s parents require bun for hair, crown for head and sandalwood paste.

Mandap

Wedding ceremony takes place under the mandap. Two banana trees are planted at the mandap and a large alpana is made with rice paste. The mandap is decorated for the event with flowers and lights.

For mandap ceremony, bride’s parents require banana trees, rice paste, flowers and lights and other decorative articles.

Wedding Rituals

Welcoming the groom

The procession (Baarat) comes at the bride’s house with ringing bells, blowing conch shells and ululation. The baran dala is held by an elder female member of the bride’s family and the plate is first touched to the groom's forehead, then to ground, and back again to his forehead in a gesture of blessing and reverence. The groom is given sweets and sherbet. Water is sprinkled on the doorstep as the groom steps into the house to mark the auspicious moment. Both, the mother of the bride and of the groom do not attend this ceremony. It is believed that this will guard the couple from the evil eyes.

For this ceremony, things required are sliver plate, bells, sweets, soft drinks and rose water.

Shubho Drishti

The pandit performs the wedding ritual. At first, groom is invited in the mandap. The puja is performed along with the person who will perform the Sampradaan. After the puja, the groom is given a fresh set of Dhoti and Kurta from the bride's side. The groom has to change his dhoti-kurta and put on the new set and the ring. After this the bride is brought to the Mandap. The bride is usually carried in a piri and four of her friends carry her in the Mandap. She keeps her eyes hidden with a beetle leaf. She is rotated seven times around the groom. Once this is over, the bride and groom are placed face to face and the bride removes her beetle leaf. The bride and groom look at each other for the first time. This is known as Shubha Drishti.

For Shubho Drishti, dhoti, kurta, betel leaf and piri are required.

Saat Paak Ritual & Samppradhan

After Shubha drishti, bride and groom exchange their garlands for three times. Then both are seated opposite to each other. Their hands are tied together and kept over a ghot. The oorna of the bride and the uttariya of the groom are fastened together. The bride and groom exchange garlands while the pandit recites mantras. Her paternal or maternal uncle gives the bride away. This part of the ceremony is called sampradhan. Along with the pandit, the groom also chants the mantra. After this the bride and groom changes the position and they are seated side by side. The yagna is carried out, which indicates that the wedding is accomplished with fire as the witness. After the marriage is over, there are some interesting games, which are being played along with the ladies of the bride's place. There are various local variances of the games like hiding the ring, playing with a vessel full of rice, etc. After all the rituals are over, the bride and groom break their fast and eat the dinner. By then, all the relatives and friends who were invitees have already taken the dinner.

For this ritual, families require garlands, ring, vessel full of rice and delicious dinner.

Bengali marriage is always scheduled during the dusk (Godhuli lagna), evening (Sandhya Lagna) or night. All the rituals take about three hours.

Rituals after Wedding

Basar ghar custom

As the wedding is accomplished, the couple is welcomed inside the bride's home. There is merriment and the couple is served dinner. Friends and relatives are in hilarious mood and keep the atmosphere jovial by jokes and poetry recital. The purpose of this is to keep the couple awake all through the night. However, for the Bengalis from East Bengal this ritual is not there. The bride and groom take rest for the night along with the other friends.

Bashi biye ritual

The next morning, the groom adorns the forehead of his bride with vermillion. He does this by looking into a mirror. The newly-weds visit the mandap and worship the Sun in the presence of pandit.

Bidaai

This ceremony marks the departure of the bride and groom. From here they set off for the groom's home. The newly weds are blessed by the elders.

Bopu baran & Bou bhat

This ceremony is conducted to welcome the couple at groom’s home. The women of the groom’s house pour water on the ground beneath their vehicle when they get off. The groom's elder brother's wife holds a plate containing lac dye and milk under the bride's feet. Having imprinted the soles of her feet thus, she leads her into the house. The couple seeks blessings of elders of the house. There are very interesting rituals attached to this event. The new bride is taken to the kitchen to witness that milk is overflowing. A vessel of milk is kept in the oven and milk overflows from it. The bride is also shown a Bou Bhat of covered vessels which are full of rice and other cooked vegetables, fish, meat and other items, which is an indication that everything is plentiful. The bride and groom are not supposed to meet that that night as it is called Kaalratri.

For this ritual, groom’s family requires water, plate containing milk and rice for cooking.

Phool Sajja

The last but not the least, it is Phool Sajja. The couple starts their nuptial journey and this occasion sees the bride in a new sari and the groom in a new dhoti and kurta. The bedroom is decorated with flowers, which is why the term phool sajja. The flowers, clothes and sweets for the occasion usually arrive as gifts from the bride's house.

For Phool Sajja, groom’s family requires sari for bride, dhoti & kurta for groom, flowers, gifts and sweets for bride and groom.

Dira gaman

A ceremony that is taken place when the newly-weds visit the bride's house for the first time after the wedding. The thread that was tied by the pandit on the bride's wrist during the wedding rituals is cut during this ritual. Conch shells are blown to the tune of ululation to celebrate the auspicious moment.

Thus the Bengali wedding is completed with lot of pomp and ceremonies. After reading through the article, you must be lured to tie knot in Bengali style. If yes, go ahead and enjoy the Mishti life.

Jayesh